The short answer to this question is: only you can decide.
You must ask yourself this question before dating after a divorce or loss:
Have you ever asked yourself this question? If not, you should. Then read the following tips to determine your dating readiness.
1. You Have Reclaimed Yourself
This is not the time to rush back into dating during what could be one of the most difficult times in your life. You must first recover after the death or divorce of your spouse. This recovery cannot be rushed. Accept that you are not the same as you were before you married the person who is no longer with you. You must be patient and take your time to recover. In other words, get to know who you are right now, at this moment.
2. You Realize That You Are “Not Guilty”
When you’ve been living as half of a couple for a long time, you become conditioned to think of yourself that way. You may be on your own due to divorce or a spouse’s death. However, your emotional state is still “one half of a pair.” You may feel guilty if, after a divorce or spousal death, you find yourself attracted to someone or decide to start dating again.
3. Anger Absence
You are entitled to be angry about the circumstances that led to your breakup. You may be angry at an ex-spouse for being abusive or unfaithful. You might be angry about the circumstances of your spouse’s passing. You are a good person and don’t deserve to suffer the pain you are experiencing. Unfortunately, some people choose to remain “in anger” or “in bitterness” until they become unable or unwilling to move from a painful place to one of peace. Before dating can resume, it is important to resolve any lingering anger.
This post was written by a professional at Valenti Matchmaking. Valenti Matchmaking offers discreet personal executive matchmakers as well as all levels of personal, one-to-one relationship coaching for a select, worldwide clientele of unapologetically selective single, successful, and attractive men and women in search of a compatible life partner.
